THE LIFE OF A SEX ADDICT
A woman named Tara Kubow, aged 30, was recently interviewed on the biology of sex addiction. Tara is a sex addict who runs a very successful Tumblr blog on sex in general. Her blog is successful for the simple reason that many people have questions about sex. She is quite knowledgeable on the subject and, therefore, gives great advice to many people who ask her for it.
Although Tara is a sex addict and is quite knowledgeable on sex related subjects, she does not know much about the biology of sex addiction.
When Tara was younger, porn was not as easy to come by as it is now. For this reason, she started off by masturbating while daydreaming about sex. When she was able to obtain a VHS tape, and later on DVDs, she would watch them, imagining herself in those situations, while masturbating. When Tara was in high school, she wanted a sexual partner quite desperately. She explains that, unfortunatly, she was too shy, fat, and nerdy to be able to attract guys. It was only later on that Tara managed to find a sexual partner.
When Tara was younger, porn was not as easy to come by as it is now. For this reason, she started off by masturbating while daydreaming about sex. When she was able to obtain a VHS tape, and later on DVDs, she would watch them, imagining herself in those situations, while masturbating. When Tara was in high school, she wanted a sexual partner quite desperately. She explains that, unfortunatly, she was too shy, fat, and nerdy to be able to attract guys. It was only later on that Tara managed to find a sexual partner.
Tara says that her first time having sex was quite disappointing; it was awkward and even a little shameful. She hooked up with a drunk guy at a party who was not all that into her; he just wanted to get laid. She admits having known all of that at the time but wanted to be desired and wanted to lose her virginity so badly that she decided to go along with it. Through Tara’s eyes, it seemed as if everyone else had lost their virginity years before.
Throughout her high school years, Tara realized that she had a lot more interest in sex than the other girls; even though they were the ones engaging in it. The other girls did not seem to be mentally preoccupied with sex the way that she was. By the time Tara was in college, she had watched more porn than most of the guys she knew and even thought and joked about sex more often than they. She knew she was someone who was extremely horny and considered herself a pervert for this reason. Later on it become quite clear to her that she was a sex addict.
These days, Tara, on average, has sex three to four times a week, not counting daily masturbation. She used to have sex once or twice a week, once again excluding daily masturbation, because her boyfriend lived further away. Once he moved closer, it became easier for them to have sex more often. Tara believes that there are newlywed couple who are having more sex than she is.
Tara has sex simply to feel good and make others feel good. There is also the underlying reason that it makes her feel feminine, wanted and attractive; all the things she lacked growing up.
The daily masturbating that Tara experiences is often done while fantasizing. She fantasizes about lovers who she does not see anymore, about people she is attracted to, and about people she is currently seeing. Although she has never confused reality with fantasy, she says that she cannot predict what might happen in the future. Although, as of now she does not expect to ever be under the illusion that the experiences she is daydreaming about while masturbating are actually real. For her, it is simply wish fulfillment.
Tara understands that being a sex addict can have negative consequences but explains that she does not let that stop her from doing what she enjoys. The way she deals with it is by thinking positively. The way she sees it, the joy that sex brings to her and the person she is having sex with outweighs the negative consequences. However, Tara does admit that she would think differently if she had ever experienced a really negative consequence. She understands that there is a good chance of her sex addiction getting more out of hand as she continues to age.
Tara understands that being a sex addict can have negative consequences but explains that she does not let that stop her from doing what she enjoys. The way she deals with it is by thinking positively. The way she sees it, the joy that sex brings to her and the person she is having sex with outweighs the negative consequences. However, Tara does admit that she would think differently if she had ever experienced a really negative consequence. She understands that there is a good chance of her sex addiction getting more out of hand as she continues to age.
